
Surviving Baby Loss
It's the last day of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Uncannily, my baby son, Cody, died on the 1st day of the month, albeit way back in 1995. It therefore seems fitting to book-end the month with a video interview about going on living after his death. I...

Baby Loss: Grieving When There’s Someone to Blame
Last Saturday was the first day of Pregnancy Infant Loss Awareness Month. It also happened to be the 27-year anniversary of the day my baby died. As a grief therapist, I spend much of my week sitting compassionately with those who are grieving the death of a loved one...
Australia Day: When Mourning & Celebrating Collide
Reflections on Australia Day 2022Yesterday was that day of the year when mourning and celebration collide. As a nation, we can't even decide what to call it or when to celebrate it. For now, the date remains set to January 26, the anniversary of the arrival of the...

Counselling for Mental Health
We are becoming increasingly aware of the growing mental health crisis in Australia. Awareness is a good thing. The increasing crisis, not so much. When you find yourself struggling with your mental health, struggling to feel hope for the future, struggling with...

What Grief is Teaching Me About The Pandemic
Today is my son's 26th birthday but unfortunately, he only lived for 9 hours. And so today, my grief takes centre stage. Not that it's ever far from my mind. My grief has brought with it an important life lesson today that is affecting the way I am seeing the...

Meditation, Music & Nature: A Healing Trilogy
Meditation, music and nature are a healing trilogy for hurting hearts; a perfect antidote to stress and anxiety. Here in Melbourne, Australia, we are facing yet another lockdown due to increasing cases of Coronavirus. Having been through Australia's most extensive,...

Coping with Covid – Again
Here in Melbourne, Australia, we find ourselves facing the grief and trauma of Covid in a way we haven't had to face since the big lockdown of 2020. With at least 15,000 known contacts and over 120 exposure sites, many of which are of significant concern, people are...

25 Things I’ve Learned Since My Baby Died
On this day, 25 years ago, my second son, Cody, died. He had lived for just 9 short hours but spent most of them on life support. To say our hearts were broken would be a gross understatement. It had been a healthy pregnancy and my easiest delivery out of 5 babies,...
24 Years Since My Heart Broke
I was going to write a post today about how to help someone who is grieving but I just can't do it. Because my own grief is very present for me right now and I need to honour that. All I can do tonight is say, hear me, please. Listen to me. I have a story to tell....